#endstillbirths – The missing pieces

There is a lot of activity going around the aim of reducing preventable stillbirth and neonatal death.  It’s been getting press attention in the UK in a way that gives hope that more people are aware of it and its impact on the lives of parents of baby loss.

As a contrast from Dr Elin Raymonds’s account it appears that a high profile #BabyLossSummit in Canada didn’t get the same level of coverage.  This is a pity as the event had some inspiring presentations and helped reinforce the point that the issues surrounding preventable deaths are global and many of them similar to the experience in the UK.

I’ve written about measures such as #SavingBabiesLives and it’s all encouraging to know that it is on the agenda and is being treated seriously.  After years being sidelined, bereaved parents’ voices are being heard and each story shared chips away at the stigma and taboo that underpins so many of the issues preventing meaningful action from happening.

As with many complex problems the focus is on prevention but this can often overlook the issues around where prevention has failed and what happens next.

What’s missing?

Mental health

In my summary of all the good work I highlighted the absence of any specific recommendations on mental health support for parents that have lost a child.

But the reports and reviews are seemingly silent on the need for bereavement care and mental health care once bereaved families leave the hospital.

“…60-70% of grieving mothers in HICs reported grief-related depressive symptoms they regarded as clinically significant 1 year after their baby’s death. These symptoms endured for at least 4 years after the loss in about half of the cases

Much of the work on reducing stillbirth and neonatal death is exactly that.  It is primarily aimed at preventing death from occuring.  What it does not appear to specifically address is how to help parents if and when it does happen and how to help them handle the complex mix of emotions that comes with pregnancy after loss.

This isn’t just about basic human decency and kindness (that should go without saying but the reality often falls short), it’s about the very real consequences to mental health.

“Psychological distress in pregnancy is associated with major adverse outcomes for mother and baby, including increased risk of perinatal mental illness which is acknowledged as a major public health concern.

There is an urgent need for more research, particularly with socially disadvantaged groups, to improve understanding of parents’ needs and enable development of interventions to improve emotional support.”

While guidance from the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists acknowledges the potential for psychological distress it provides ‘little practical advice on how professionals should support parents’.  The little advice it does provide seems to be inconsistently applied.

Research back in 2014 reviewed existing studies on parents experiences and expectations of care in stillbirth or neonatal death highlighted the significant impact of previous perinatal loss on subsequent pregnancies:

“The concept of ‘perinatal bereavement’ encapsulating the unique experiences of parents immediately after loss or the death of an infant, was only recently recognised by professionals.

This phenomenon describes a complex emotional response, most commonly expressed through grief, with no specified timeframe”

The elegantly named Marvellous to mediocre: findings of national survey of UK practice and provision of care in pregnancies after stillbirth or neonatal death picked up where the 2014 report left off by filling the evidence gap through its own survey of 138 maternity units and 547 women in the UK.  In contrast, the studies it reviewed in 2014 had sample sizes ranging from 4 to 82 participants.

Of the 138 maternity units that responded 58% of them did not have specific policies, pathways or guidelines on care in subsequent pregnancies.  Where they did:

“monitoring and surveillance appeared to be accorded more emphasis than emotional support and psychological care”

More scans alone are not enough

The MBRRACE report on perinatal death highlighted the importance of monitoring and measuring growth in preventing stillbirths.  This is good and important but without a human element to the technology it remains an incomplete approach to the challenges of pregnancy following loss.

“Units confirmed that limited formal guidance was available to support clinical staff in providing care to women in pregnancy after stillbirth or neonatal death, reflecting the lack of evidence-based care pathways in this area.

Where guidelines existed, the focus was prevention of recurrence through detection of complications rather than psychological well-being and emotional support for parents”

The focus on monitoring doesn’t take into account that for those pregnant after loss, scans are not always reassuring.  Part of this is to do with the ramping up of anxiety as the scan approaches.  It can call to mind the moment etched into the mind, heart and soul forever:

I’m sorry, there’s no heart beat

When handled properly, where health care professionals have taken the time to read the notes, familiarise themselves with the history and acknowledge anxieties as valid then scans and appointments can be briefly reassuring.

This isn’t what the 2014 research found in its review of available papers:

“Although maternity care professionals were perceived as a crucial source of support by parents, the included studies consistently demonstrated that actual contact failed to meet expectations.

Parents frequently encountered professionals who were unaware of their history, through lack of access to / or reading of notes before consultation.

Dismissive attitudes to fears and concerns and insensitive and inappropriate comments sometimes resulted.  These often remained with parents long after the event

This contrasts heavily against the guidelines:

“The history of stillbirth should be clearly marked in the case record and carers should ensure they read all the notes thoroughly before seeing the woman.”

I know that this doesn’t always happen.

“At my first NHS scan I became very distressed, the sonograher asked why I was upset and I asked if she had read my notes, she hadn’t so we had to explain our history despite having provided my own Sands stickers and ensured they were on my handheld notes and hospital notes”

Faced with the prospect of this each and every scan it becomes clear why extra scans do not offer reassurance for those pregnant following loss.

Living up to the rhetoric

Coupled with this is a lack of understanding about the need for these scans.  I’ve mentioned before that there is a disconnect between the messages to get checked for reduced fetal movements and how they are treated once they do.

“A bad experience was when a midwife on MDU [maternity day unit] commented that women who receive extra care following a stillbirth such as the planned CTG I had did not medically need to be seen.  The implication was that we were wasting her time which upset me”

The messages around risk are also confused with pressure to not be upfront about risks for fear of scaring expectant parents.

Isolation

This well intentioned coddling is counter productive.  Expectant parents should be aware of the risks and what to look out for in terms of warning signs.  There’s another potential consequence to this shielding, it can lead to self-censorship.

Part of the reason that expectant parents after loss lean so heavily on health care professionals is that following loss the lack of understanding from family members and friends and unrealistic assumptions about the magic reset button of a new pregnancy leaves them isolated from the support networks on which they would normally rely.

It makes it all the more important that appointments are handled sensitively.

It has knock on effects to expectant parents being able to prepare for parenting through the normal route of attending NCT groups.

“Standard antenatal classes were often perceived as problematic; bereaved parents particularly expressed discomfort at the prospect of disclosing previous experiences and discussing their baby’s death.

Concerns related not only to personal impact of reliving severe trauma, but also to potential effects on other parents to be, who were unlikely to have been exposed to poor outcomes.

As a result,, some women admitted they concealed the number of children they had in group discussions and several stopped attending sessions altogether”

 Training

The research and survey identified a need for training all staff in handling bereavement.

“Negative encounters involved professionals across a range of backgrounds (obstretricians, midwives and allied professions) however, junior staff (particularly obstretricians) were mentioned more frequently raising questions around pre-registration education and support for professionals at an early stage of their careers.”

More research

The 2016 research follows on from the 2014 review paper and addresses the identified evidence gap around experiences in the UK.  Its authors note their study’s limitation and highlight the need for further work to identify and understand the specific needs of the groups that are less likely to join support groups or access the charities that helped recruit survey participants.

“This acknowledged limitation and recent data highlighting that Black or Black British, Asian or British Asian women have 50% increased risk of perinatal death compared to the general population emphasise the urgent need to specifically explore the experiences of socially disadvantaged women and other ‘hard to reach’ groups in pregnancy after stillbirth or neonatal death”

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There is also a very big question mark around why 46% of stillbirths have ‘unknown causes’.

Credit where it’s due

The report Marvellous to Mediocre as its name suggests doesn’t just cover the bad experiences but examples of sensitive handling, compassion and understanding.

What the good stuff shows is that it doesn’t take much to make a difference.

“Midwife has been excellent, listened to my worries and has been very cautious about certain things, even sending me to hospital for extra scans and monitored blood pressure checks.  Have felt very reassured under her care.”

“Consultant – she seems to care about the risks involved and stress we are under…my previous birth experience was exactly the opposite…”

[Consultant]…Talked about my first baby, remembered her name

Sometimes that’s all it needs.

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33 Comments Add yours

  1. Kerry says:

    A really interesting article. I have been fortunate enough not to experience stillbirth first hand, but sadly have friends who have. I have seen a definite lack of emotional support for them, and wish as a friend I could have done/helped more x

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  2. Kerry says:

    PS via #KCACOLS x

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  3. pinkpearbear says:

    Brilliant post. So sad that so many are in this position. When my daughter was born, after a traumatic labour that ended in theatre, she wasn’t breathing, they placed her on a station level with my head but too far to see properly or touch, and gave her the oxygen mouth to mouth thingy, we were sure she had gone, it was honestly the worst few minutes of my life. Thank everything, they got her to breathe but then they wrapped her up, showed her to me and took both her and my husband away while they fixed me up and then placed me alone in recovery for half an hour. I shall never forget that as long as I live. I didn’t even get to touch her after believing she was gone and had no idea if she was ok. I suffered post birth trauma after. Unsurprising really. The pain that that memory holds is so sharp, and everything ended up ok, so I truly can’t imagine the strength of the agony of losing a child. #bigpinklink

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    1. ShoeboxofM says:

      That’s terrible. I’m sorry you both had to go through that.

      If you are not already a part of it, the #MatExp community of healthcare professionals and parents are a good group to talk to. They have a #BirthTrauma twitter chat where people can share experiences and HCPs can listen and learn.

      The Facebook group is also very good.

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  4. wow – so much here I wasn’t aware of or hadn’t considered – i.e the extra scans but then professionals not fully reading the notes. I cant imagine how awful going through all of this must be. thank you for sharing #KCACOLS

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  5. mackenzieglanville says:

    I love how you finished off this piece with the acknowledgement that sometimes that’s all it needs. Not to be set under the carpet, for professionals and family/friends to acknowledge that the baby was there, the baby was real and loved, he or she had a name and parents who will love him/her forever! That there is no such thing as a replacement baby! I understand people don’t know what to say, I get it I do, but professionals need to be trained in this, to think a midwife may only get a couple of lessons on this in 3rd year is ridiculous! I could go on forever in response to what you have shared here, another well written and detailed article! Thank you for raising awareness

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  6. arthurwears says:

    I would welcome more scans. I had an early scan at 8 weeks as they were worried it could be ectopic. Knowing everything was ok at that point helped me to relax and enjoy those early stages of pregnancy without worrying something could be wrong. I also had a late scan at 30+ weeks (they were unsure at the time whether I had lupus so needed to monitor the growth) and again, it gave me the reassurance I needed. My sister had the same (she DOES have lupus) and it highlighted major issues which meant to had to be induced and then an emergency c section early. It was only by chance she had been diagnosed with lupus before her pregnancy – if not she wouldn’t have had the extra scans and nothing would have been detected. I won’t get extra next time as I’m not in a known risk category. Some don’t know if they are or aren’t and that can be the issue. #KCACOLS

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    1. ShoeboxofM says:

      For any pregnancy they should be able to offer extra scans if reassurance is needed. There are lots of messages about getting checked if you feel something is wrong or different. It’s also important that the scans result in accurate measurements.

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  7. lauracharlie1988 says:

    This was really interesting to read. I don’t think anyone understands better than someone who has been through baby loss or still birth. I agree that mental health is super important. You can’t just erase those memories.

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    1. lauracharlie1988 says:

      also #KCACOLS

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    2. ShoeboxofM says:

      It falls to us to help those HCPs understand a little of why we are so anxious. I know there are bereaved parents that deliver presentations and training events on this and those that attend find them useful. There’s an idea that junior or trainee doctors and nurses should be shielded until they have more experience but if they are to be let loose on bereaved patients then they need to have a better idea!

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  8. Kat says:

    Such an informative post for such a hard topic to talk about. I really think there should be a dedicated mental health team or unit for both parents after the loss of a child, stillbirth and pregnancy after loss and miscarriage. I can only imagine all the extra worry and stress it puts on the whole family. Its a very important topic to raise awareness about #kcacols

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    1. ShoeboxofM says:

      It’s through blogs like this that I’m trying to get it onto the agenda. It’s not as though there’s not research on this it just feels that the stigma and taboo around stillbirth and baby loss is so strong that it silences calls for action.

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  9. Mrs Tubbs says:

    So much sadness behind these statistics … Heartbreaking. 😦

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  10. A really well written and informative post – as a neonatal nurse I see too much infant loss and often the family have lost previous children – it is a devastating situation and more support for families and indepth understanding by health professionals is needed. A lot of the support that we sign post parents to is through charities, but more needs to come from healthcare services. Thank you for highlighting such an important issue #kcacols

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    1. ShoeboxofM says:

      Thanks for your comment. It means a lot. I try and stay balanced recognising the good bits as well as the bad bits. There’s a need for better support for the staff that have to guide parents through one of the worst times of their life too.

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  11. Annette says:

    Thankfully I have never experienced this, but I do know someone who did. The care they received seemed well enough on the surface, but that’s as far as it went. I agree that much much more needs to be done to support families and by having the strength to blog about this not-really-talked-about subject, it is helping to break the silence. #DreamTeam x

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    1. ShoeboxofM says:

      Thank you for sharing. I’m glad that this post has finally beaten the throwaway Paw Patrol one!

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  12. Wow such an important topic. This post is very informative and I’m so really sorry that you have been through all of this. It is really nice that you are trying to create awareness of this situation and try to get a better help for parents that are going through this too. It is very brave of you talk about it. I really hope this gets heard and something is done about it. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. So sorry about my late reply.

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    1. I meant my late comment not late reply, x

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    2. ShoeboxofM says:

      No need for apologies! Thanks for helping share the message.

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  13. I dont think enough is done, especially in subsequent pregnancies. Though this could just be my experience. We lost our daughter back in 2014 and I am now almost 33 weeks again. I have no sands sticker on my hand held notes, not ever dr knows which causes distress again to say we hada still birth at term, and I havent had extra scans. Only since a diabetes diagnosis a month ago has this changed, but I know that would be the same is I was “normal”. I have requested a section to prevent distress for baby and emotional anxiety for me and was fobbed off with “whilst we understand how you feel you are healthy to have a natural delivery”… they don’t understand and maybe I am, but for my sanity and to prevent my baby dying again I want her out quickly and controlled!

    Let me know if we need to start a campaign, its something I feel strongly about #bestandworst

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    1. ShoeboxofM says:

      Thank you Mary. I’m sorry that you are having a hard time. What you describe completely ignores the guidelines that those doctors should be following and a sticker is the very least they can do to help mark it for the revolving carousel of HCPs.

      Anxiety should not be dismissed so lightly and I understand your desire to see your baby as soon as possible.

      There is a strong campaign led by both parents and HCPs called #MatExp that works to take on these types of experience and help improve care. If you are happy for me to do so I can share your story with them, they may be able to advise on what your best options are.

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  14. helen gandy says:

    What an excellent post and well written. After recently seen a friend go through this I agree that much more needs to be done to raise awareness of infant death and loss, even as a nurse I feel I would benefit from more training with regards to this. Thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst and good for you for talking about such a hard subject to discuss.

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  15. I love the way you write, drawing from experience, breaking down medical jargon and you open yourself up in a way that is beautiful and haunting. As always I am so sorry for everything you went through, the insensitiveness that people face on subsequent pregnancies is sad, but what is a worry is that there is no training to handle these situations because often what you need is someone holding your hand telling you that it is ok to worry but that they are there. Having had two traumatic birthing experiences from induction and high blood pressure, my second, though more life threatening to me, was a much calmer experience with sensitive handling. #bestandworst

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