#ButterflyAwards2018 – Reflections

We made it.  It was a tough call after such a recent loss but we made it.  It was hard (how could it not be?) but it was worth it.  So many people said it but it was said with truth: I didn’t expect to win, it was an honour to be nominated.  Many of…

#BLAW2018 – Baby Loss Awareness Week in Review

The #WaveOfLight is done, the candles are out and we all try and breathe after either huffing and puffing or holding our breath for a week. Every year is intense, Baby Loss Awareness Week gives us a space and time to tell our stories of loss and search to find purpose after our world and…

#BabyLossDebate – #BLAW2018

For those that missed the #BabyLossDebate yesterday the full transcript is here This was an example of politics at its best. No point scoring, yah-booing. It was a shame it was so poorly attended. This wasn’t just sad stories, it was a collective will and demonstration of joint working to improve not only awareness but prevention, bereavement…

Baffled By Contradictions – Part 2

This month is a mixed time at best.  There is much going on with a lot of awareness raising activities and opportunities to reach a wider audience than preaching to club members. My feeds and most probably the feeds of my comrades in loss are full of banners, pictures and heart rending tales of shared…

Butterfly Awards – Awareness Advocate

This was a nice surprise.  A genuinely unexpected one.  At a time where I felt that I had stalled in my efforts an email appeared to say I had been nominated for the new Awareness Advocate category at the Butterfly Awards. At the time I didn’t know the names of the other finalists and now…

Grief in the workplace

Introduction to the introduction What follows below is not written for my usual blog audience but you may find it helpful for your own workplace discussions about grief in the workplace.  The purpose here is to address what grief is, why it matters in the workplace and how together we can manage its impact. One…

Right where I am (6 years, 9 months)

I found about this project long after it appears to have fallen dormant off the back of a devastating account of stillbirth in The Guardian from 2012. As well as providing an unsurprisingly raw account of loss it contained links to many good but abandoned blogs.  One of which was a site hosting the Right…

#StrutYourSongs 2018

I’m joining Vicky & Matthew Treherne’s #StrutYourSongs 2018 challenge to raise money to support the Miscarriage Association. I’ve been inspired by their story of how music has provided comfort in the dark days of loss and has helped bring others together to speak openly of their experiences and raise funds and awareness of an all too common…

#FindingtheWords – Workplace conversations about baby loss

This June marks Sands awareness month and this year the focus is on #FindingtheWords to break the silence around stillbirth and neonatal death by encouraging everyone to sensitively start a conversation with someone whose baby has died, however long ago. This campaign is driven by recent survey findings around support for the bereaved in the…

Happy Place coping strategies: Mad, bad and sad

The final piece of the puzzle is a nice short one encapsulating the main lessons of the Happy Place strategies: control and release. It all comes down to choice around my own actions and thoughts.  There are different perspectives, factors and I don’t have to be lead by my emotions at all times.  There will…