#FindingYourWay – Notes from the Sands Conference 2019

Finding my way to #FindingOurWay I woke at 3am with a mix of anticipation and dread.  I’ve spoken many, many times on stillbirth and pregnancy loss but not of my sons, not directly.  In blogs, yes but in events I’d always preferred to stick to the higher levels and themes rather than the specifics. As…

#OpenUpToGrief – At the Launch of National Grief Awareness Week

This was a great event, emotionally harrowing (of course, how could it not be?) and interspersed with moments of hope, fire and shared desire that things can and have to be better. Building on Baby Loss Awareness Week and World Mental Health day the conversations are shifting and National Grief Awareness Week and all its…

#BabyLossAwarenessWeek – Postscript for #BLAW2019

It’s been a very trying few weeks even before getting to #BabyLossAwarenessWeek but with a timely intervention I got back into the work that needed to be done. Together we have achieved a lot. There is still much to be done and some things to think about as we pass this week and it starts…

#BabyLossAwarenessWeek2019 – Joining the dots on mental health

I’ve seen a lot of flack directed at awareness weeks. I can see they are problematic and can be viewed as a cheap way of acknowledging an issue without addressing the root causes / issues underpinning them. Particularly around mental health there is a justifiable anger about focus on certain more ‘acceptable’ forms over others…

#WorldMentalHealthDay and #BabyLossAwarenessWeek

This week marks both World Mental Health Day and Baby Loss Awareness Week and the two are intertwined.  ·         “During the pregnancy after the loss of my sons my anxiety became unbearable, I was unable to focus for fear of history repeating itself. My manager was there to provide the space for me to feel able to voice that…

#BLAW2019 – Sick but well, work to be done

There’s going to be lots of this. Just yesterday, I wrote about the incredibly mixed and ambiguous feelings around #BabyLossAwarenessWeek. I took part in a #BabyLossHour discussion on the same topic and spoke with other bereaved parents wrestling with the same dilemma. This has been my rallying cry but with all that’s happening I’m starting…

#BLAW2019 – More than a week but a week is more than enough

“I’m running out of lines / I’m running out of art / I’m running out of songs to sing / ’bout this wicked world breakin’ my heart” I’ve written before about the importance of #BabyLossAwarenessWeek and why, for parents it’s more than a week. For the most, awareness raising is not aimed at the bereaved,…

Baby Loss & #WorldSuicidePreventionDay

For World Suicide Prevention Day I want to talk about suicide and the topic of baby loss.  The title alone is a trigger warning of sorts and it’s a conversation we need to be able to have if we are to prevent  more people dying by suicide. For obvious reasons, it’s a hugely sensitive topic…

#FindingYourWay2019

The term #FindingYourWay is incredibly apt.  Each loss is different and the grief for that loss will be different.  What may have worked to help with the worst of one may not work with others.  I know from experience that the grief of losing babies through stillbirth and miscarriage is very different.  One did not…

#BabyLossHour – What it means to me

For one hour every Tuesday I have the opportunity to speak with people that have gone through similar experiences to my own loss of my twin sons.  Some will be mere days or months from their loss and others, like me, maybe further along in our grief.  Everyone of us has the potential to learn…