Stark depictions of infant mortality

Points of view revisited I got my answer from the BBC yesterday to my polite request asking them to reconsider their decision to not broadcast the documentary Still Loved. If you have read my previous post you would have seen my complaint was respectfully presented and probed the BBC’s previous standard line response. What I…

Still Loved: Review and reflection

It seems age ago since I contributed to Still Loved, a documentary about the impact of stillbirth on a group of families.  It was one of the first accounts I found when using Twitter to search for information on stillbirth rather than just work related stuff. Seeing it played in cinemas was great even if…

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In most of my posts I focus on the aftermath rather than the origin story of my sons. In reality it is no longer possible to separate the two. The story of their lives is inverted in their death. This post was originally intended to be the ‘happy story’ of the beginning (“when we were…

Dolls, snowflakes and badges: The Third Rule of Grief Club

“I don’t know what to say” This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot in response to the questions raised by Ana’s posts and our discussions. It’s one of the most common refrains heard by the bereaved.  It’s an honest response that can sometimes land badly.  Saying it can feel weak.  An irreversable shift…

Werewolves, whirlpools and the first rule of Grief Club

I agree with a lot of what Ana wrote in her insightful guest post The Right Way to Grieve.  She writes eloquently about an issue that the bereaved know only too well. The first rule The principle of ‘there is no right way to grieve’ is the first rule of grief club.  It is a…

The Wood within the Sands

I am grateful for Ana in a lot of ways.  Her response to my blog on my difficulties understanding spiritual benefits of stillbirth was so brilliant and insightful I asked her to contribute a guest blog. This brought me back to where I had started nearly 5 years ago. When referrals to her post started…

#SandsAwarenessMonth: What Sands means to me

As you will have seen from the blog header and Twitter profile, June marks #SandsAwarenessMonth. This is an opportunity to raise awareness of charities like Sands that offer help and support for bereaved  parents and their families, friends, colleagues and the health care professionals affected. Charities like Sands, Tamba and Tommy’s are helping families bereaved…

This door is locked

This post is inspired by two WordPress daily prompts; Locked and Abandoned Locked As a die hard Silent Hill fan the word locked instantly brings to mind the familiar refrain of the game: The lock is jammed.  This door cannot be opened. The phrase serves two purposes.  One, it means not having to create time…

The act of creation saves us from despair

This was a secret blog.  It took a lot of effort to convince me to make it public and overcome the fear of rejection or criticism.  The only way to stop this blog from being just a howl into the void was to make it public, join the blogging community and see what was out…