I have put together a collection of links, resources, and articles on one page for now. As ever, please let me know if there are any topics I should add.
Pregnancy and baby loss support organisations and sites
Unplugging as Self-Care – While taking a break from social media may seem like a fashionable trend for people, for others it can be a necessary tool for self-care.
Our Sam – Baby Loss Charity and Support Services Directory
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Ireland; a directory of support services and knowledge for both bereaved parents and healthcare professionals.
How to stop pregnancy ads following you after a loss
Targeted advertising and how to stop it
Meaningful Grieving After Pregnancy Loss
Petals – The Baby Loss Counselling Charity
Baby funerals: how to mourn your child and remember them with beauty and love
Nova Foundation – Antenatal care for pregnancy after loss
The Unthinkable – A post from Glow in the Woods on grief and time
I should be better – A post about long term grief and how it changes
First Day at School – Support for those struggling
Early Pregnancy Loss and miscarriage
Miscarriage Information and Resources – a resource for anyone who needs information and support about early miscarriage
25 years of The EPT – 25 years of providing information and support to anyone affected by ectopic pregnancy
‘I. Am. So. Sorry’: Talking about my pregnancy losses
‘Validate & Grieve’: How To Support A Miscarriage Survivor
In search of answers about miscarriage
After my miscarriages I didn’t need to talk – I needed access to better care
Miscarriage Information Support Service
Looking after your mental health after pregnancy loss
Why Is There So Much Silence Around Miscarriage?
EMBRACING DIVERSITY – PND and Miscarriage
The Flavors of My Grief: A Food Writer’s Journey Through Recurrent Miscarriage
A maddening grief: my year of miscarriages and how I got through it
Termination for medical reasons
Unspeakable grief: breaking the silence around terminations for medical reasons
Stillbirth
Sands – Stillbirth and Neonatal Death
Tommy’s – Stillbirth – information and support
What You Need to Know About Stillbirths
Neonatal Death
Sands – Stillbirth and Neonatal Death
Tommy’s – Neonatal Death – Information and Support
Twins, multiples and more
Twins Trust – Supporting bereaved families of twins, triplets or more
‘Just devastating’: the rarely discussed virtual taboo of losing a baby
The death of Cristiano Ronaldo’s newborn baby is a reminder we need to talk about twin loss
Fathers and partners
You are not alone – an honest conversation about baby loss, mental health and community
- Ryan, a bereavement counsellor, sat down with bereaved dads, Donald and Tunji, as they shared their experiences of loss, men’s mental health and the importance of reaching out for support. If you would like to reach for for support after watching this video, you can find out more here: sands.org.uk/support-BL sands.org.uk/support
COMIC GEOFF NORCOTT – ON BABY LOSS & GRIEF
Pregnancy loss podcast for partners has global appeal
THE HEARTACHE OF LOSING A BABY: A DAD’S STORY
How men hurt and grieve over miscarriage
Geoff Norcott shares his thoughts about the loss of his baby daughter Connie
How to Help Your Partner When They’re Grieving
Baby Loss Awareness Week 2020 | Guest Blog | Support for new dads
Sands – Information and support for partners
Miscarriage Association – Partners
Supporting each other as a couple
Antenatal Results and Choices – Help for Fathers
Partners and ectopic pregnancy
Miscarriage: you don’t have to be strong for me
Men Are the Forgotten Grievers in Miscarriage
Why are men still ignored when we talk about miscarriage?
Men’s grief following pregnancy loss and neonatal loss
What I’ve Learned About Supporting A Partner – And Yourself – Through Miscarriage
My husband didn’t carry our baby, but he carried the weight of my pregnancy after loss
Men and miscarriage – and others too
Blogs
Learning Through Devastation: Surviving the Loss of a Stillborn Child
Boys don’t cry – Fatherhood and grief
Five Things I’ve learned about pregnancy and baby loss as a bereaved father
Donald Mbeutcha reads his poem “I Am Still A Father”
Podcasts
Special holidays
Holidays based around families can be difficult as they highlight loss and those that should be with us to share those days.
This page provides resources and support to help manage these challenges as well as suggestions about ways to include lost family members into the day. It also provides suggested ways to help support a grieving colleague.
Sands Ambassador, Malin Andersson on coping with baby loss at Christmas
Dealing with grief during the holidays
6 Things to Consider Before You Skip the Holidays
Holiday Grief: When The First Holiday Is NOT The Worst Holiday
64 Tips for Coping with Grief at the Holidays
8 Tips for Remaining Present at the Holidays (While Grieving)
Christmas
8 Tips For Honoring Your Grief At Christmas – Still Standing
Coping with Christmas when you have suffered the loss of a baby – Tommy’s
Coping after pregnancy loss this Christmas – Miscarriage Association
Mother’s Day
6 WAYS TO SUPPORT BEREAVED MOTHERS ON MOTHER’S DAY
GW Masterclass: Coping with Mother’s Day for EU, USA & Canada
Father’s Day
Workplace Support
Miscarriage & Redundancy: What You Need To Know
The Work Couch: Pregnancy loss and work (Part 1): Does the law reflect expected work cultures?
So how does the law currently protect employees who experience pregnancy loss – and does it reflect expected work cultures? Ellie Gelder talks to employment law experts Charlotte Reid, senior associate at RPC, and Eleena Misra KC of Old Square Chambers about:
- Why pregnancy loss is such an important topic for employers;
- Charlotte’s own experience of miscarriage and how it affected her at work;
- How the right to time off differs depending on the timing of the loss;
- The perspective of non-child-bearing partners;
- What legislative changes we might see on the horizon, specifically the progress of The Miscarriage Leave Bill; and
- Practical issues that might arise and how managers can deal with these sensitively and supportively.
Ruth Bender Atik – supporting employees experiencing miscarriage – Minds@Work Community Conversation
How to talk about miscarriage and baby loss at work
Baby loss survey report urges change to workplace culture
CIPD – Workplace support for employees experiencing pregnancy or baby loss
CIPD – Supporting employees experiencing pregnancy or baby loss
Resources for returning to work following loss
Returning to work after stillbirth
Ectopic Pregnancy Trust – The Workplace
Returning to work as a bereaved parent
Resources for colleagues supporting bereaved parents
Miscarriage: Civil Service helps to break the silence
Miscarriage and the Workplace Resources Hub
How to Speak to Someone About an Unspeakable Loss
How you can help when someone returns to work after their baby or child has died
Work and Baby Loss: Essential services for employers – quick do’s and dont’s
For work colleagues and managers – how to give support after stillbirth
How she learned to help—and not help—a friend with loss
Managing an Employee Who’s Having a Personal Crisis
BabyLossHour – Discussion led by The Ectopic Trust on returning to work
Dad Still Standing Podcast – Returning to Work
International Research
Returning to Work after a Miscarriage – Research from Australia
Policies
Supporting employees through pregnancy loss
Pregnancy Loss Policy – Channel 4
How miscarriage support can form part of your D&I strategy
Pregnancy after loss
Having a baby after pregnancy loss is a joy. But it may never wipe the slate clean
What you need to know about perinatal and postpartum mental health disorders
Parenting After Loss: Making Space for Both Babies
The Truth About Crying at My Baby Shower
Coping Skills for Pregnancy After Loss during a Pandemic
Willow’s Rainbow Box partner interview
Sands – Thinking about having another baby
Miscarriage Association – Preganancy after Loss
Further Pregnancy After a Loss
Articles, blogs and online discussion
“Is This Your First Pregnancy?” and Other Difficult Questions in Pregnancy after Loss
Pregnancy after baby loss: ‘We felt guilty for being excited’
Danielle shares her experience of what it feels like to be pregnant after a miscarriage.
Still Standing Magazine – Pregnancy after loss articles
Glow in the Woods – ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss
#RainbowBabyHour – pregnancy after neo-natal loss and rainbow babies in NICU
#PAL in the workplace discussion
‘We’re Still Bereaved Parents’: Having A ‘Rainbow Baby’ Doesn’t Erase Loss
Having a Black therapist was the key to helping me overcome PTSD after pregnancy loss
What to Expect When You’re Expecting the Worst
What I Want You to Know about Pregnancy After Loss
6 Ways Family and Friends can Support the Mom Pregnant Again After Loss
My greatest fear during my pregnancy after loss wasn’t that my baby would die
My husband didn’t carry our baby, but he carried the weight of my pregnancy after loss
Jacquelyn’s Journey: Remembering Richard and Helping Others
My husband didn’t carry our baby, but he carried the weight of my pregnancy after loss
When you Miscarry your Rainbow Baby
LGBT+ Support
Making Baby Loss Support LGBTQ+ inclusive – The Legacy of Leo
Laura-Rose and Stacey’s story – The Miscarriage Association
Miscarriage Association – Partners Too
Men, trans/masculine, and non-binary people’s experiences of pregnancy loss
Mel talks about her girlfriend’s miscarriage of their IVF pregnancy
Reflecting on loss from a non-bio mother’s perspective
Faith and race
You are not alone – an honest conversation about baby loss, mental health and community
- Ryan, a bereavement counsellor, sat down with bereaved dads, Donald and Tunji, as they shared their experiences of loss, men’s mental health and the importance of reaching out for support. If you would like to reach for for support after watching this video, you can find out more here: sands.org.uk/support-BL sands.org.uk/support
Jessica’s story – miscarriage and cultural taboo
Jessica shares her experience of miscarriage, her thoughts on how her culture sees pregnancy loss as a taboo and ways that helped her to grieve and feel less alone.
Ibraheem’s Gift pack – The Ibraheem’s Gift pack was designed in close consultation with a hospital Imam and contains the immediate necessities that parents would need to help them prepare for their baby’s Muslim burial.
Shradh Virtual Event 2021 – remembering babies gone too soon
When Birth Can Sometimes Mean Loss
Pregnancy and baby loss in South Asian communities
Sands – Support for South Asian communities
Understanding South Asian Baby Loss
Having a Black therapist was the key to helping me overcome PTSD after pregnancy loss
HOW CHILD LOSS AFFECTED ME – DONALD MBEUTCHA
SpiceFM interview – Wellbeing and Pregnancy After Loss (5mins 43 in)
Feeling dismissed by medics and being treated like a statistic
Baby Loss in Different Cultures & Communities – Willow’s Rainbow Box
Babyloss Awareness Week – Babyloss affects Black & Asian People
I want to inspire others to find their voice and break the silence | Tommy’s
Black Women Get Left Out Of Baby Loss Narratives. So I’m Telling My Story
‘My daughter placed her hand on my stomach and prayed for the baby to ‘come alive again’’
Recurrent miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy and cultural taboo around loss
Miscarriage, mental health and breaking cultural taboos
Missed miscarriage and loss within Jamaican culture
Faith
How faith helped with my grief
Funeral ideas for readings, hymns
Baby loss: Pray you, love, remember
Muslim Bereavement Support Service
Jewish Bereavement Counselling Service
Advice on Attitudes to Death & Grieving in Different Faith & Belief
Communities
LIFE AFTER LOSING OUR DAUGHTER
Family and Friends
A selection of materials to help support family and friends in their grief.
Helping friends & family support bereaved parents
What to Send to a Funeral Instead of Flowers
How to Help Your Partner When They’re Grieving
Supporting someone you know – Miscarriage Association
Information and support for relatives and friends – Sands
7 Ways to Support a Friend Dealing with Baby Loss
How to help a friend – Legacy of Leo
Support for grandparents affected by stillbirth
Listening to the voice of a stillborn child
IT TURNS OUT THAT FATHERS (QUIETLY) GRIEVE AFTER LOSING AN UNBORN CHILD TOO
Children, grief and bereavement
Suzie talks about how the death of her twin boys has impacted her son Olly.
LOST FOR WORDS: A NEW BOOK BY ME, MY SON AND MANY OTHER BEREAVED CHILDREN
Children process grief differently than adults. Here’s what parents need to know
When it comes to talking to children about death, it’s better to be honest
Supporting brothers and sisters of a child who has died
Siblings Grieve Too And We Owe Them Honest Conversations
How could I explain death to my son after the loss of his baby sister?
For parents and carers – Cruse
Support for bereaved children – Child Bereavement UK
Apart of Me – App for Children
Books
Children’s Books for the Bereaved
10 books for children about death and grief
7 Unusual and Wonderful Books that Help Children Grieve and Make Sense of Death
Online training
A collection of links to free online training modules to help better understand the issues around fertility and baby loss.
Loss of a Baby in Multiple Pregnancy: Supporting Grieving Parents
Bereavement Care after Pregnancy Loss or Baby Death – Learning for All – Accessible through free registration with the NHS e-learning platform
Civil Service Learning – Online training materials on bereavement in the workplace
Research
Twins Trust – Report reveals more than 1 in 3 bereaved parents received poor care during pregnancy
Recurrent miscarriage and early pregnancy: learning from women’s experiences
Miscarriage matters – The Lancet – Hub for research and materials
Devastating impact of miscarriage laid bare in new research
Full findings from the Lancet Miscarriage Series and Implications for Policy with Recommendations.
Your questions about The Lancet miscarriage research series answered
Miscarriage Research: The Lancet – Parliamentary Debate
Mumsnet survey reveals miscarriage care is getting worse
Shoebox of Memories 
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