Dolls, snowflakes and badges: The Third Rule of Grief Club

“I don’t know what to say” This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot in response to the questions raised by Ana’s posts and our discussions. It’s one of the most common refrains heard by the bereaved.  It’s an honest response that can sometimes land badly.  Saying it can feel weak.  An irreversable shift…

#endstillbirths: Westminster Hall Debate – June 2016

It’s been both inspiring and draining all at the same time to be part of #SandsAwarenessMonth. It’s inspiring to see that after so many years of research making the scale, scope and solutions to this epidemic abundantly clear the issue of stillbirth is finally getting on the health agenda and wider public consciousness. My Twitter…

#5for5Challenge: Update and thank you

#5for5Challenge: Thank you Fittingly for #SandsAwarenessMonth I have  reached my goal of over 5000 views for the blog and have raised £45 towards my £50 target. Even better at least 700 of those were for the #endstillbirths series of blogs (although there are still a disturbingly high number of views for bloody Paw Patrol…). Even…

#SandsAwarenessMonth: What Sands means to me

As you will have seen from the blog header and Twitter profile, June marks #SandsAwarenessMonth. This is an opportunity to raise awareness of charities like Sands that offer help and support for bereaved  parents and their families, friends, colleagues and the health care professionals affected. Charities like Sands, Tamba and Tommy’s are helping families bereaved…

Empathy, empathy, they’ve all got it empathy

“[T]here is a terrible irony in the assumption that we can ever transcend our parochial tendencies entirely. Social scientists have found that in-group love and out-group hate originate from the same neurobiological basis, are mutually reinforcing, and co-evolved—because loyalty to the in-group provided a survival advantage by helping our ancestors to combat a threatening out-group….

Best blogs of the week – 15 April 2016

Another blog-light week this week as real life intervened and I spent more time reading and thinking than writing.  Annoying week at work derailed things more than I would have liked but I’ve read some great stuff that either took the edge off, distracted me or entertained me on the interminable purgatory of commuting. Some…

What the papers say

I am annoyed.  That’s a mild expression of the burning fury that accompanies reading something that is not only inaccurate but so wrong it verges on the dishonest. I am unable to go into full details so I will take a more general approach. With the speed of information approaching near terminal velocity the news…

Best blogs of the week – 8 April

Following the popularity of last week’s blog round up here are some of my picks for this week.  I’ve not been prolific for the beginning of this week (although I’m making up for lost time) so I haven’t joined in my usual link ups.  Instead I’ve been reading the blogs that pop up on my…

A tricky question: Values or friends?

As with my Saving Babies’ Lives post this one started off as a long detailed post taking a mundane event as a jumping off point. I then use it as an opportunity to over think it, agonise over drafting and awkwardly try and shoehorn references to The Lucifer Effect, Abu Ghraib and Morecombe Bay and the…

This week’s best blogs – 1 April 2016

As part of the #5for5 Challenge I committed to taking part in at least 5 link ups a week and reading / commenting on at least 5 posts a day.  Through doing this I have found brilliant writers and lots of support, encouragement and kindred spirits. By way of a progress update to make sure…