Werewolves, whirlpools and the first rule of Grief Club

I agree with a lot of what Ana wrote in her insightful guest post The Right Way to Grieve.  She writes eloquently about an issue that the bereaved know only too well. The first rule The principle of ‘there is no right way to grieve’ is the first rule of grief club.  It is a…

Guest Post: Ana – The bewildering benefits of loss

Ana is a psychologist and academic nomad. She is the mother of Luca, born in March 2011, and Nadia, who passed away at birth in October 2015. Upon finding out that Nadia will die, Ana received remarkable care and support from a palliative care team in Oxford, UK. Her experience will be published on Aeon soon….

#5for5Challenge: Update and thank you

#5for5Challenge: Thank you Fittingly for #SandsAwarenessMonth I have  reached my goal of over 5000 views for the blog and have raised £45 towards my £50 target. Even better at least 700 of those were for the #endstillbirths series of blogs (although there are still a disturbingly high number of views for bloody Paw Patrol…). Even…

#SandsAwarenessMonth: What Sands means to me

As you will have seen from the blog header and Twitter profile, June marks #SandsAwarenessMonth. This is an opportunity to raise awareness of charities like Sands that offer help and support for bereaved  parents and their families, friends, colleagues and the health care professionals affected. Charities like Sands, Tamba and Tommy’s are helping families bereaved…

This door is locked

This post is inspired by two WordPress daily prompts; Locked and Abandoned Locked As a die hard Silent Hill fan the word locked instantly brings to mind the familiar refrain of the game: The lock is jammed.  This door cannot be opened. The phrase serves two purposes.  One, it means not having to create time…

Raising a glass to The Glass House Girls

Long before I became a shoebox and started blogging on grief, stillbirth and parenting after loss I mainly lurked in the shadows of Twitter absorbing all it had to offer. I can’t remember why but I started to search for non-work related tweets to see what, if anything, I could find on stillbirth. By chance…

#endstillbirths: Taking on stigma and taboo

The main theme underpinning all recent Lancet / International Stillbirth Alliance research series and call to action is the all pervasive and deeply corrosive twin effect of stigma and taboo. The societal drive to avoid that most uncomfortable of subjects has wider impact than many would like to admit or acknowledge.  Like the fabled road…

Something better

I read something today that disturbed and challenged me in an unexpected way. I knew when I clicked on the link that this would be step into unknown territory but I still wanted to see it. To see what possible justification there could be for such a provocative headline. In my writing I have found…

We went to Brighton. It was shut.

It’s a running joke between us that most of what we do ends up slightly wonky. We go to bustling tourist spots in the off-season and just generally nothing turns out like you want it to. For us this is a reasonably healthy approach. It helps shield against the inevitable disappointment that plagues perfectionists and…