#CaptureYourGrief: Day 20 -Gratitude

20. GRATITUDE | Telling people to be grateful while they are grieving is kind of absurd. You cannot force a person to feel gratitude, just like you cannot force someone to feel forgiveness. You either feel it or you don’t. I remember when I started on this journey of grief, people always said count your…

#CaptureYourGrief -Day 19 – Grief Rituals

GRIEF RITUALS | Creating rituals in grief do wonders for healing your heart. Do you have any grief rituals? Maybe something you do on special dates like birthdays or anniversaries? How do these rituals help you? How spooky.  Day 19 marks the boys’ birthday and this year its their fifth anniversary.  Our grief ritual is…

#CaptureYourGrief: Day 18 – Healing Therapies

HEALING THERAPIES | Have you discovered any healing therapies in your life after loss? Please share what has helped you. What has helped me is writing. Far from being the echo chamber I feared it has been a great way to explore the facets of grief and challenge the myths imposed by others on us…

#CaptureYourGrief: Day 17 – Sacred Space

SACRED SPACE| Do you have a special place that you visit to be with your children? A place that you feel connected to? Maybe it is their grave, or a beautiful garden, beach or forest. Maybe it is a special spot dedicated to them in your home, like a shrine or altar. What does this…

#CaptureYourGrief: Day 15 – Wave of Light

WAVE OF LIGHT | October 15th Wave of Light is a very significant day of remembrance and awareness of our community calendar. At 7pm you are invited to light a candle to honour and remember all of the babies and children who have died. If everyone does this, there will be a continuous wave of…

#CaptureYourGrief: Day 14 – Beliefs and Spirituality

Yesterday I found an article via Twitter on the Vatican’s declaration that ashes should only be kept in an approved sacred space. To keep them at home, to forge them into keepsakes or scatter them was ‘pantheistic’ or even ‘nihilistic’. “The dead body isn’t the private property of relatives, but rather a son of God…

#CaptureYourGrief: Day 13 – Dear World

DEAR WORLD | What is on your heart that you want the world to know about your kind of grief? This is your day to choose your own topic. Some topic ideas are pregnancy or infertility after loss. Anxiety or PTSD. Forgiveness. Trust. What is it that you want to talk about? I want the world…

#CaptureYourGrief: Day 12 – Lemons and Lemonade

LEMONS + LEMONADE | Have you made anything positive come from this unimaginable loss? Did you find any blessings among all the sadness and sorrow? I’m wary of having my sons’ deaths being reduced to a pithy proverbial phrase.  I don’t like the idea that any good that followed after their death would have only come…

#CaptureYourGrief: Day 11 – Creative Heartwork

CREATIVE HEARTWORK | Have you done anything special to memorialize your child? Maybe you got a tattoo or commissioned a piece of art to be created. Maybe you have a special piece of jewellery to remember them by or created a garden. If I have any memorials then they generally come from someone else. We…

#CaptureYourGrief: Day 10 – Symbols and Signs

SYMBOLS + SIGNS | Do you have a symbol that represents your child? Maybe it is a butterfly, tree or bird etc. Share how you came to find that symbol and what it means to you. Do you believe your children send you signs at all? Have you had any? How did they help you?…