MYTHS | Have you discovered any myths about this grief experience?
Sometimes it feels that all people know of grief is the myths rather than reality. Myths are powerful, they shape attitudes and behaviours in a way that is hard to change.
Myths are even more powerful when they are not treated as the wispy insubstantial things they are but given a veneer of respectability and authority. Myths become enshrined in attitudes, they become culture and stifle the voices of those that want to talk of their babies, their experience and not be sidelined or forgotten.
Even evidence from research is not enough to sink these rubber ducks of belief. Statistics can prove anything and besides they know of a person where it happened and they didn’t need to feel the need to talk about and just moved on so why can’t you? Their anecdote trumps your experience. Whatever their form the message is always the same: Shut up, move on.